015 And the Oak Tree and the Cypress Grow Not in Each Other’s Shadow

Apr 3, 2019

015 And the Oak Tree and the Cypress Grow Not in Each Other’s Shadow

Apr 3, 2019

The balance between connection and separateness is key for a couple to run a successful business together. Connection is, of course, necessary because you are a couple who goes home together at night and raises a family while also maintaining an intimacy not known to the average coworker. And separateness helps each person maintain his or her independence.

Khalil Gibran, the Lebanese-American poet and author of the book, The Prophet, described the need for this balance over 75 years ago. He put it this way:

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone. Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”

In today’s episode, we describe the process we used to define our roles and responsibilities. And how and why we work so hard to maintain a balance between connection and separateness.

Separating your roles and responsibilities is important because it gives you each the space you need to function as an owner of the company. Having space can also provide a buffer if one of you has a bad day at work and needs to vent or has an amazing day and wants to celebrate.

Working on separate parts of the business also helps break up the day so you aren’t spending every minute together. You may even find that you get so busy and you become so focused on work that you don’t talk much to your spouse during the work day and look forward to sharing your day with him or her in the evening.

And finally, having separate roles and responsibilities will help you avoid power struggles and conflicts. Especially when you apply our rule of “It’s never 50/50”.

Finally, in this episode, we discuss how you can incorporate a team and we describe the process we use to hire and train our team members and how we hired our integrator.

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